Ahaa oh jesus, I had a good laugh with that message c': Thing is, if I snap and react to anything she does, it will only get worse because you can never win an argument with a narcissist. And when she gets mad at me she doesn't talk to me for days like an immature kid giving you the silent treatment. The reason why I'm so passive and calm towards her shit is to make things easier on myself and not let her crap bother me (I'm very emotional). It has worked wonders so far, she still does things that piss me off but I just ignore her and let her throw a tantrum if she wants. If I react to anything she does then I'm giving her what she wants, a reaction to feed her behavior and do something meaner in return. I'm mostly sure my iron walls towards her constant crapola have been weakened because of my hormones dancing in a circle, but I'll be fine in a few days. Mom also does the "I'M HOOOME" thing, and gets so upset when you don't go greet her like a dog. Also had times when she would storm in my room (after I cleaned all of the house) and not even said hi, just complained about a spot I missed and wanted me to get up and go look at it. Now if she doesn't like how I've cleaned something I tell her to do it herself then.