My name is River and I chose the name when I still identified as non-binary. However I love it so much I’m very reluctant to part with it. I’ve found that it’s more about being upfront and confident with my gender identify as a man than it is about whether or not my name is specifically masculine. I’m not on T and it’s pretty obvious I’m afab, but being firm in saying I want to be called he/him and giving people the “wtf is wrong with you” face anytime they don’t after I told them to dispels people misgendering me to my face. Turns out people really hate being judged when they know they did something wrong.

In other cases though I just can’t be bothered to correct someone I barely know and won’t interact with on a daily basis. I know I’m a man no matter who calls me “she” or “miss.” They can’t take that away from me.