I would assume something like "stop telling me how to live your life and I won't tell you how to live yours."

Of course a marriage takes more than that.

But why won't people acknowledge where he says that it's "everything" at the end of his post and says she criticizes that he doesn't read and watches TV and stuff.

There's no other interpretation than she's dissatisfied with a number of things and her way of coping is to tell him he's not living the right way.

So why is it it that people here can't empathize with OP because it sucks to be told you're living wrong all the time. Who can be happy and a good partner in that situation? He's supposed to do everything she asks just so he's not criticized all the time? That's not fair. That's no kind of compromise.

We're not responding to his wife, whatever her concerns may be. We're responding to him. Expecting him to fix the problem on his own in the face of constant criticism just upsets me. That's a shitty motivation to do anything. What is wrong with positive enforcement?