Hey brothers, made a throwaway because I don't need this shit fucking with my reputation on my main account. Some background: I've been on this sub for about a year, I need a place to vent a bit and ask for some advice, and this sub is my home on Reddit.

Alright. So my wife and I have been going through a divorce for a long time now, years, and we recently got back together and started trying to work things out. She's a great person, but she and I have had our run ins together because we're both vets, both struggle with ptsd, and in the past have both struggled with substance abuse. A lot of that shit is behind us now, but we're having a lot of trouble trusting each other still because our relationship has had some infidelity on both sides. We're going to counseling and shit, and we want it to work, but last night it came out that she had recently talked to this guy that she fucked while we were apart. It also came out that I fucked around with some chick at the bar recently. We're both kind of terrible I guess, but we love each other.

I want to keep going in trying to fix this shit and move forward. There's a lot of animosity between us, and most times shit is great, but sometimes, especially since we started couples therapy, shit is fucking terrible. We knew this shit would be tough going in, but I don't understand if I'm being unreasonable, because here's what happened last night: I called this guy up that she had been talking to and talked with him for a good while about what's been going on between them and he had a really fucking hard time giving me straight answers. I called her on it and now she's acting super depressed and won't talk to me. I think she's fucked up because she's scared I'll leave again, but I'm pretty resolute that this is something salvageable if we can just shore up the weak points and get a nice symmetrical relationship built here.

I'm willing to try, she says she is to. My question is this: you guys think I'm wasting my time? I've gotten pretty comfortable fucking sluts on the weekend and doing my own thing, but I never stopped missing her, would y'all struggle to fix something like this if you were given the opportunity?