I wrote that because I had a massive headache that was requiring me to leave the computer, lest I wanted to vomit. I wanted to write a larger post about how the statistics they used are flawed, and that they were addressing a point entirely different from what I was saying.

I thought it was implied that when I wrote, "I thought you meant SPORTS" about soccer, I was making a joke about how there are many people - especially gridiron football fans - who don't view soccer as a real sport for silly reasons. My comment was trying to point out, with the original metaphor, how they were looking at the discussion from a different context from the one I was using.

Everyone is treating my comment as if I was saying that you're not allowed to be shocked when your partner reveals that they're trans, which I honestly feel was clearly not what the comment was about. The preference conversation almost exclusively occurs after a trans person has disclosed, and almost universally happens in the comment section. My original comment was only addressing that, and it was just saying, "Instead of telling people that you can't date them because they're trans, give them a reason that doesn't place a burden on them where they cannot meaningfully have any influence." If you can't get around the genitals situation, it's as simple as saying, "I don't think this relationship will work out, because I can't get past this aspect." Saying it's because they're trans just makes a person feel shitty when it's something that cannot be helped in any meaningful way.

I don't feel that anything is being taken away from what I'm saying, and I don't think I've been terribly unclear or unreasonable in these posts. It feels unfair that I'm expected to take something away from a post that doesn't even relate to what I'm initially saying and is honestly not anything I haven't heard and already considered from other more critical sources.