You're not arguing about policies that affect trans people as if they affected you?

Yes, I do argue about these policies. Why? They do affect me. They affect me and every other person trans or not. Like one person said, private changing rooms is the best answer. It affects me whether I present as a man or not. It affects my sister who is all girl as she was born. It makes her uncomfortable to worry about if there are only women in the women's bathroom. I have explained to her many times that it's the same as a coed bathroom, but for her that isn't the issue. It threatens what it means to be a woman for her. I suspect many cis people feel these same feelings.

If my parts do not define what sex I am, then what am I they say? It raises questions in the mind when the idea that your parts do not defne your sex, which are uncomfortable to the public and shakes them to their core.

In order to protect her I want their to be other options, such as a coed bathroom or third option like unisex. Private changing areas would be great too!

For the record I have been in gym bathrooms with M to F in transition. I was in the F room because that is what I look like. I was happy to see her there, being discreet, not bothering a soul. Some mother's had a problem with her and left, but I struck up a conversation and wished her luck. It's not easy to deal with being the one everyone runs from. I know that. It's also not easy to bring your children into a bathroom when you expect only sexually presented women to be in there and find what you consider a grown man in a dress there and try to explain that to a 5 year old girl. I know few adults that can explain such a situation gracefully and tactfully.

Not to mention the fact the little girl didn't like the man there, as she complained loudly about it. What about her rights to dress out of the eyes of a man? She doesn't understand he is a woman in his heart. She will be hurt by that experience.

We must respect everyone's rights and the only way to do that is to allow private changing areas or unisex options. I have seen unisex bathrooms and changing areas that work very well, where moms and dads, kids, and everyone has a private area to change, but can roam through the common area clothed. No one had a problem with anything in this scenario, cis, trans, gay, bi, old, young, etc.

FYI, it's never too late to transition, and there is major research in phalloplasty technology in the pipeline, including an in vitro grown functional penis made from autologous cells which can be transplanted to the recipient.

Which is why I decided to wait. I am still waiting for the science to be perfect.

So I'm sure you can see there is a difference here, yes?

Sure there is a difference...but you don't know why that was. You don't know why I was able to deal with my feelings better than you. You can not assume I was wrongfully diagnosed because I had different results. I had an awful lot of people helping me sort everything out. I'm talking a team of doctors, counselors, mentors, and everything because my family had rejected me to the point of kicking me out and were actively working against my therapy. I had to have this support to stay alive. Did you have that much support? Did you have an army on your side against your family telling them your feelings were real and beating it out of you wouldn't work? Were you pulled into protective custody so that your family could no longer attack you for being too male (female in your case)? Not many people get that kind of support. I was lucky beyond belief. I had two counselors, one for the feelings of being male and one for my family issues, I had two doctors for this issue alone, then there was the many mentors that walked me through what their life was like post surgery and when they decided against surgery. I was accepted for who I was by all of these people and this helped me so much, to stop and think through every single step. If I didn't have this support, I don't know what might have happened.

Now you said you had untreated problems. I had treated problems, treated with support, understanding, compassion, acceptance, and overwhelming love. I was given solutions to every single issue that came up, from how do I present myself to others, to how can I be more girly so mom is happier with me? To why do I need to be girly to make someone else happy when it makes me miserable? To what do I feel like inside and why is that? I'm talking deep intensive daily therapy for almost a year in total. Did you have that?