I'm really trying to do my best to avoid the common pitfalls with it. I feel cringey about the make up of the relationship on paper (couple that added a third hehe. Ugh. I very much dislike hierarchical poly) AND the age gap AND the closed poly.

I was specifically only dating poly folks when I met L, who was mono. Over the time being mono with him I developed a tendency toward jealousy, which I very much dislike. Very glad for A's influence across the board and definitely have no desire to try to clip his wings. I 100% appreciate him pushing for all of us to be more free to enjoy life.

L is jealous and grumbly here and there, but A can reach him on a whole other level than I ever could. It's really nice to have that example and assistance. I don't think I would have ever had the tenacity to approach this topic with L on my own, even though I used to enjoy rp myself and it turned out to be a good experience.

I think it's a healthy dynamic, as embarrassed as I feel about the logistics when it comes to presenting us here. Sorry for rambling!