I used "used" not in a predatory sense but as a way to underscore the self-gratification nature of hookup sex. IE women used me to scratch their itch.

Again, you are the one who is okay with being used for sex. Agency has nothing to do with it even though women have it.

I am sorry to say but most people think along these lines. When they hookup with a woman, they are assessing her value as he assesses a car. N count is effectively mileage.

Leave it to automobiles and economics to turn off a Feminist :)

Would you be okay with your husband having an N count of 20? More than you? Or less? Why?

I think you care what I think. Why else would you keep coming back?