Just my thoughts, here. To be honest, I'd say that in general yes, women have low libido compared to men. I do have one friend who told me her sex drive really went high in her mid 30s and is still pretty high (her definition of "high" is getting grumpy if she can't have sex once a week.) But she's the only woman I've known to say that and all of my other friends group would agree with your wife's statement. (For reference: all women in 30s and 40s, with two ladies in their early 50s included.) Obviously I'm ignoring new relationship sex for this answer, because that's pretty much always a thing.

On this sub, you'll hear from a lot of high libido females. I was surprised to see how many HL women post here in fact. Then, it occurred to me: only those who are having a problem or a concern are posting here (HL or sometimes LL) but the millions and millions of women who are LL and are generally perfectly fine with it are not posting here until their husband raises hell, etc. Maybe even, the majority of women as your wife said.

Women are often more likely to speak up about issues and want to talk them out, find solutions. So, again, you may be seeing a particularly large proportion of HL females here compared to what's out in the world.

LL women do occasionally post here, but I think it's kind of a scary thing to admit to a bunch of strangers, while HL is easier to admit to this crowd.

Now, the honesty of my answer isn't meant to say "dude, it's hopeless," but it is meant to tell you that your wife's probably not just making crap up. Her friends all probably do feel that way.

But, you shouldn't really compare to her friends or anyone else. If you're unhappy and can't accept what your wife is, there may be someone better suited for you out there and long-term better for you.

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