[EDIT] So to start the story off about a year ago when we first met My sex drive was dead due to anxiety medication. I had no clue it was because of the pill but we had found out later it was becasue of it. I had no desire for sex i could not even masturbait it was extremely frustraiting and pressuring. I felt terrible about it we rarly had sex and she wanted it ALLLLL the time which was awesome but i could not work. Now i work since I have been off the pill however it flip sided her sex drive is dead she explains that she still wants it all the time but just cant do it. She rarly can piddle her diddle just like i could not. We have sex at least once a week though and i can get her off extremely quick. She also explains that she is presured with sex because i get sad when she says no but I try to show its ok i just get a little sad because shes not the same where she wanted sex alll the time. She is finally comfortable in saying no to me because I had showed her its ok to do that sex should go both ways where both partners want it not just one. I also pressure her because I have terrible anxiety i get extremely self conscious about it, a billion things rush in my head like "is it boring", "am I not good enough", "Is it because I do not impress her with sex" and so on. We had a few discussions of it and every time she explains that I am good enough. She is extremely truthful when it comes to sex she tells me if im doing it wrong or if she wont be able to get off, hell she told me the first coupe times we had sex she faked an orgasm here an there to make me feel like a king due to her being drunk and having the whisky dick syndrom. She now just tells me she may not be able to get off instead of faking it knowing i was not happy about the fake orgasms. She tells me im cute when i try to be dominant she loves dom play I do too however my last relationships were terrible sexual experiences where i never got to explore my dom side and I was crushed by them for cheating and not wanting me. My girlfriend now is perfection she treats me so well and supports my crazy anxiety and helps me get through it. Her sex drive dying gives me major anxiety I have never once had anxiety with her before but now I do and I cant stop it mainy due to her poor sex drive. She does not understand it either she over worries that i will leave her or cheat she always tells me "what if this does not get fixed?" I honestly dont know I love her to death and want to still be with her to the end she is literaly the one as I am to her. For once im the first guy she wants a futur with which her family and friends were shocked by because she never wanted that and was a player with a lot of experience but then she met me and is happier than she can ever be and wants so much with me as I do with her. I dont know how to help her with this dead sex drive I know being patient and non pressuring is something but I dont know how not to pressure her Im more than patient with her I love her and will not push sex on her if she does not want it thats final instead we cuddle, make out, and watch a movie or something. She also tells me that she worries she is not enough in bed and she gets pressured by that and when i do get a little sad about it it makes her feel pressured it. I understand that because when mine was dead there was a lot of pressure and worrying involved that killed my sex drive more. It sounds like i deserve this due to her going through my crappy sex drive and now im in her shoes about it but there is no pill involved its just random. She explains many possible reasons such as Wroking 40 hours at work now instead of 32, being comfortable to say no for sex, me being sad when she does say no, stressing about whats going on in her life which there are a few big things going on, I just dont understand how she was so into sex and always wanted it even if she was beyond tired she wanted it back then in college she had a lot of sex (responiblly not trashy sex). Now i feel terrible for even trying to have sex with her i get anxtious and nervous I just want us to be abe to have sex all the time just like she did before im scared to death its because of me and she wants something else all of my past relationships were because of that but this time it is not she shows me i can trust her and she helps me clear my head of anxiety time to time she wants this fixed too. Bottom line is I dont want to leave her ever I just want to know how her sex drive can be fixed I just want her happy and comfortable but i dont know how to do this please help me.