Hey there. Throw away account for obvious reasons lol. I was in the same place as you maybe 3 years ago. After 2 kids and all that life hits us with we were left with g rated intimacy.... We moved here from Toronto and had our neighbors over for dinner one night. After our kids were in bed and on bottle 4 of wine they told us they were swingers. We laughed about it and the next day my wife and I were intrigued by it for only information purposes... That lead to some dress up and role play between us. A few weeks later again with our neighbors and again very drunk in their hot tub it got sexy between us. Just between the couples only but it was so liberating. I think my wife liked it more lol. Fast forward to last summer and we attended one of the swinger club together and haven't looked back. As long as you have an open mind set ground rules it can work for you. Our sex life has never been better... Talking like even when we were in our 20s and in our prime. Anyways food for thought. And where else can I fuck a 24 year old girl with my wife right there. Lol. Good luck lots of resources out there with therapists, books, online courses.