Here’s more background:

We met in passing 3 times over the last 2 years never formally introduced or spoke.

Over the past year we ended up getting to know one other really well. Pretty quickly we had a very flirty dynamic with quite a lot of sexual tension. Eventually shot my shot.

were electric, fireworks, emotional and raw. We had highs and lows to attempt to broad stroke some details and insights.

A few noteworthy details. is historically she is very “anti relationship” and does her damndest to avoid. One of the last nights I had with her we’d been drinking having a good time. And she begrudgingly says she mad at me, shocked I’m like wtf for huh?

She said that I’m making her want to break her no dating rule. We go to hop in the shower and she asks point blank why can’t we fall in love forever. I look right back and tell her that she knows the answer, which os the only thing holding us back is her walls and fear giving into the emotion.

We had a 7 hour conversation/argument about true love not being real outside of movie and our era and that everything in our culture has bastardized the possible “Jack and rose”

Her point was true love is fake and people aren’t capable of it anymore because it’s culture of temptation and easy access to the next best thing so when the going gets tough or something better passes by people bail or step out

my argument was that it’s rare but real, but it’s also not just linear where it’s has to be sunshine and rainbows from the beginning and the obstacles aren’t just thrown when the relationship is stable and strong like a movie. But the idea of true love requires 50/50 effort and desire from both people foster and nurture the relationship together if you want it to be extraordinary.