3. I know it sounds weird, but transitioning feels kinda like experiencing a gender...

I know it sounds weird, but transitioning feels kinda like experiencing a gender-bender manga irl.

I can definitely empathize with a lot of the tropes that you tend to find in those. One in particular, actually.

My relationship with my best friend is literally the exact trope found in those mangas: incredibly close best friends for over ten years, he was always the popular, athletic one who understood me and always wanted to hang out with me even though no one else understood why. I was the sensitive, effeminate one who had stuffed animals and didn't understand why I was so confused and unhappy. He was incredibly positive when I transitioned and has been my greatest support through this, all while both of us swore that this wasn't going to change our relationship.

Sound familiar? I've read some mangas like this where conversations could have been lifted directly from the two of us (Boku Girl, anyone?). And according to the trope, I'm going to slowly come to terms with my femininity and we'll end up falling for one another.

The funny thing is, I want to laugh and say that's not happening, but THAT'S HOW THE MAIN CHARACTER ALWAYS RESPONDS. It's actually kind of funny that recognizing the parallels that I described really did cause me a lot of stress around how our friendship was going to evolve, before I finally decided to just stop worrying about it. I've started to develop strong romantic inclinations towards guys, but I'm happy to say that my buddy is still the last person I'd ever want to date.

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