Sorry to poke my nose in it, BUT.... Would you accept a guys opinion /advice on this matter?

It's a mess you TWO are in. A complete lack of communication, and mutual respect. This can be repaired. It's hard - and takes effort.

I feel for ya mate, but let me tell you this... how about looking at conflict resolution or counselling? Serious... if it's getting to the stage in the relationship that you's two are shouting, not talking, sleeping in other rooms and what not... this could go a long way.

Now.... why would I add my two cents in this - you ask? Well... because I once was ACCUSED of cheating. I was not. Never would. Never. If you are pushing him away, distancing yourself from him - COURSE he's gonna do something stupid. Let's hope it doesn't get to that stage, if it hasn't already.

As far as contacting her, holding your secret women's meeting... Well - you better have a good apology to him for betraying his trust with that because that's a whole new war you are starting.

Now... this next thing I'm going to say, might seem ruthless.... but I tell you what - there's not much that a good blow-job won't fix, too.... I'm 100% serious hun. You watch his attitude change to you, when you suddenly cook him his favourite meal for the night, be his sexy huni that he FELL INLOVE WITH, let him digest a bit, and then suck him off on the couch - tell him to relax, shit, if it takes 25 minutes - so be it. You watch those chemicals in his brain change. And don't go hitting him with 1000 negative questions after. Just be your awesome, chill, loving self.

You treat him like a king, and you'll be his queen. Bring back dat love. It's too easy!!

I hope this advice may help, and all the best.