On average and compared to men on average, yes, women are obviously physically weaker. That's an obvious and easy to empirically demonstrable fact. I mean, go out and test it.

Misogyny would be to imply from that fact their inferiority of rank or status. Women are equal to men in standing because you don't need to pass a strength test to have equal dignity.

My question is simple to state: Why do we tolerate a woman shoving or slapping a man but consider a depiction of a man doing so shameful? Isn't that some kind of moral inequality?

My answer is yes it is an apparent inequality, but it's because on average there is a physical power inequality between the sexes. I am not allowed to control a dispute with a woman physically in most circumstances because the disparity is so large that I could easily control most one on one interactions with violence if I wanted to. It's vastly unfair for me to even operate in that way, as it would be for an adult to try and get in fights with children.

Now, you're right, women can do damage with a weapon, but my point is more that if I shove a woman in a dispute and push her to the ground I'm going to be labeled an abuser and shamed if this is known about me. For a woman to be similarly shamed morally she would basically have to attack me with a dangerous weapon and actually hurt me.

But I think this inequality is fair because I have all the advantage in a physical dispute so I bear much more responsibility if I decide to start something physical with her. I should be shamed for a lot less than she would be because I've much more physical advantage and can't be allowed to use that to dictate and control relationships.