3. What is abusive, but not widely recognized as abuse?

What is abusive, but not widely recognized as abuse?

I'll share my story/experience, it might not seem bad, but it was for me. It will be long

I got my first cell phone in 5th grade (2008) and it was the most amazing thing ever because I was one of the last kids in my grade to do so. Now keep in mind I have NEVER done anything in my 19 years to give my parents a reason for me to not be trusted. Sure, I would lie about small shit like if I broke something or didn't do a chore, but I always told my parents exactly what I was doing, when I was doing it, and who I was going to be with when it came to spending time with friends.

The problem started about 6 months after I got my phone when my dad started to regularly check my phone and more specifically, my text messages. I'm getting fucking pissed of right now just thinking about it and the last time it happened was when I was 16 (I'm 19 now). My dad (my mom was nice an never did it) would PURPOSELY FUCKING TRAP ME by purposely looking over my shoulder randomly while I was texting and at the moment I would move my phone to hide what I was looking at he would say, "give me your phone" and look through every message sent and received and all my pictures. Spoiler alert, he never found anything bad on there. What he would find were text messages with friends and holy fucking dog shit if there were a girl I was texting he would tease me so bad and that shit fucked me up. I was never able to regularly talk to girls and fully develop as a person until he finally stopped because I was always afraid that if I talked to a girl or even worse try to go on a date with one he would tease me. For years I had to hide my messages and learn to always delete fast.

I still have major trust issues when it comes to people having my phone. I will fucking blow up if I'm showing someone something on my phone and they do what a lot of people do and snatch it out of your hands. I don't believe in self-diagnosed bullshit when it comes to mental diseases, but I swear that when people have my phone without my permission it brings out some sort of anxiety disorder in me. To this day I still always hide my phone and make sure nobody can see my phone when I'm texting people because of what happened to me.

tldr: my dad would take my phone from me and read all my messages and it fucked me up

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