I was saying that comment to get to see more about you. You can absolutely do that.. ask a girl to get ice cream is possible, you could ask a male friend to get icecream with you no? but either way now I see more about your situation, So clearly you not wanting to do that shows there is more to this than meets the eye. Cause the thing is, if you're really serious about dating than at some point you need to just go for it ask somebody somewhere becuase we form relationships through shared experienced, getting ice cream etc is setting the foundation for shared experiences.... If you're too nervous anxious to do that, or you're too anxious to even talk to a woman to find similarities, I would definitely suggest therapy.. It helped me a lot. Alternatively you could start small, start oberserving girls you find attractive, girls you like, girls who make you feel good etc and try to find ways to spend more time with them. You said your job has women no, find excuses to talk to them, compliment them like "You seem happy." "You look great today." etc. genuine stuff, practice empathizing opening your heart up to them, just little things then women may feel more comfortable with you too and start talking back, and then it can build... just a suggestion good luck!