I’ve only had two partners, but both of them raves about how things were different with me & noted how passionate I was with them.

What I focused on? I don’t really know lol, I’d always just get lost in the feeling & not think so much.

[If you’re easily triggered, don’t read below].

Sex isn’t all about just penetration & release, I’d utilize ALL the five senses - I’d run my hands on their face/hands/back/hips/breasts/legs while we kissed, lightly dig my nails into her back or pull her hair, I’d build anticipation, kiss close to her erogenous areas, I’d focus on rhythm instead of just rampantly humping her - there’s a lot more but I just lost myself in the moment & with them. The times I thought conscious about getting hard or just fucking her, it wasn’t as good of an experience for me. That’s just me though.