So I try to hold back with calling guys creepy because I think it can be hurtful. I've heard a lot of women call guys creeps for things that are just awkward or whatever, but if this seems to be an ongoing problem and you actually got banned from a bar, then I think it's good you're being reflective.

One of the guys that really honestly did creep me out was my acquaintance in grad school. He has no idea how how to interact with women, but he's not inherently a bad person. Anyway, here's what he did to creep me the fuck out.

He found out I was single, and suddenly started getting very close. He's about 6'2/300 lbs and was just very unaware of what was appropriate. I have personal space issues anyway, and he'd constantly get right up on me and tower over me enough to where he legitimately had to lower his eyes as much as physically possible just to look at me. He pat me on the head a couple times, and seemed to be very unaware of how often him trying to stand close to me was literally blocking me into a corner.

We were all at a conference, and we begrudgingly let him stay in our room because my other guy friend was there and it wasn't too inappropriate. Out of nowhere, he starts talking about porn and rough sex and it was just extremely uncomfortable.

The worst thing about all this was that, because Im sensitive, I really didn't want to call him out in front of people because I realized be was a very unattractive, very awkward guy and I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

However, I am ridiculously claustrophobic regarding people and he legitimately gave me a panic attack before I could pull him aside and talk to him about it. I ended up blurting out, in front of friends, that I really needed him to quit touching me.

It really bothered me that he felt like he could just pat me on the head or get inside my bubble.

That's creepy, and I really don't throw that around loosely.