3. What's your story about picking up and moving to a new city?

What's your story about picking up and moving to a new city?

So here it is - my mom died when I was 14, and my little brother and I went to stay with my dad. Dad was irresponsible with money which led to us loosing our housing x2 over the course of 4 years and once due to a house fire. Each time I spent at least 8 months finding housing (shared) for me and brother, and working to pay bills. Dropped out of HS at 15ish. Dad lived off our social security survivors benefits since she died.

When I was about 18 or 19 dad got a stable job again and we all moved back in together. I lived with him and my brother and met my SO who was in town working for the summer but lived in AZ.
So we spent about a year and a half long distance and it was of course miserable...On top of that my little brother was getting older and going through a super rebellious phase. Me playing mom and sister was putting more and more strain on our relationship. It hurt me more and more seeing him pull away from me because I was stuck 'raising him'.

So I moved to my SOs state. Now while I was living with my Dad and Brother in California my SOs mom was adamant about me moving (it was almost pushy) saying we needed to make a choice or move on, us being apart was worse for both of us, ect. I should've seen those red flags. But I did not. She was another big reason I moved because of just how pushy she was about how I needed to move. So naturally when I moved (in with him, his mom, and 3y/o brother) things backfired with her so he and I got an apartment in town.

Then 6ish months ago we were both offered jobs in my homestate. So we're moving back soon (just to a different part of the state!) I just have to finish up some medical stuff here so I stayed in Arizona to finish out our lease while he went back to CA to work :p

The move did help me and my little brothers relationship. We're very close (we always were) but I don't have to be mom anymore. Which gives us a chance to be brother and sister again. It wasn't the only reason I moved (moved to go to school too - but in state tuition was tough to get) but it was a big part. The move was all for the best I think, I've enjoyed living here, I don't regret the choice at all. It was a fun experience. I was kind of prepared, kind of unprepared. Job was waiting for me (transfer within the company I worked for). My SO was a huge factor in choosing to move/where to move. I was really, absolutely exhausted with where I was living/the people there.

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