That sucks. Have you been able to remove her from your life? How has the rest of life been for you? Hearing from you is never a downer. =)

I've met and run into some nasty trans people online, who have more issues than Vogue. And then they feel like "Trans Queen" or "Trans King" and feel like when they talk it is law, and if another person has a different narrative they start playing all kinds of games. I just have to stop talking to people like that. I realize it is them who is in a bad place, and I realize they're the one struggling, but... yeah, nope. I rather read my Vogue issues that I actually have in real life than deal with their issues they're denying they have in real life.

I don't roll with any trans circles in real life. I have had one semi close trans man friend who was like 12+ years hrt, but other than meeting another trans woman a few times, I've never really gravitated to that. Which, because of all this, because of things that have happened to you and me reading about them, I've been spending the last month deep in thought about the verbiage of the trans community. I truly believe we have the seeds of our demise sowed into our vocabulary that is innately cissexist. This post I wrote the other day starts to touch on it. Honestly, I can sense a lot of pressure to conform online to the Cis-Trans binary, and I can only imagine it is worse in real life communities. That full thread is here if you wish to read it.

I've taken a stance of "I'm visible" for a past trans history, but I also state openly for all to hear, if you respect me don't bring up my past in real life. That's not to say I won't help an old friend who's child is struggling with identity. I most certainly will. But talking about my past. I laid it out in black and white, female pronouns since birth, Violet since birth, and if they treat me as anything but a cis woman with a cis female body, then I privileges enough in life to cut them out of my life. Anyway. Yeah.

It's so wonderful to have you back! And I totally agree, outing another trans person, or a person with a trans history, is an act of aggression.