Yeah. It's surprising to me because I usually hang around over on r/relationships and the first thing people over there would have said is 'We need more detail here. How are things outside of the bedroom?'
But then, I'm getting laid regularly, it does help me to think straight. ;)
No, low blow for the japes. In all seriousness, I agree. I was really unhappy in my last relationship and whenever he came onto me for sex, if I wasn't 100% enthusiastic he immediately started shouting/talking about breaking up/throwing me out etc. which only served to make me stiffen up even more and start resisting the moment I sensed he was in the mood, obviously. Coupled with the fact he was a bit of a selfish lover at the best of times, it made the whole ordeal just not worth my time and I broke up with him in short order.
Current boyfriend is sweet, attentive, complimentary, supportive and romantic and I can't get enough of him sexually. The fact that he goes so far out of his way to do the 'girly' stuff for me, even though he isn't a natural romantic, he just knows it makes me happy, makes me want to go out of my way to fulfill his sexual fantasies whenever the thought occurs to me (nothing dramatic, just nice lingerie, quickies outdoors, plentiful blowjobs etc.) because he is awesome, the sex is awesome and I love surprising him with this stuff because he's a nice guy who wouldn't ever really ask for it if I didn't offer. It's awesome seeing how chuffed he is about that stuff and it makes me feel sexy seeing how excited he gets. He always makes sure I am satisfied, too. I love him deeply and love being with him sexually.
I have no idea what is going on for the woman in the OP but this aggressive reaction in comments suggests projection of frustration rather than empathy and understanding, which is huge passion-killer for most women (and many emotionally developed men). If OP is approaching her in an entitled way, or if she feels she has repeatedly communicated something outside the bedroom which is upsetting her and OP hasn't even acknowledged it, that would be a definite passion-killer. I also listed about 10 reasons unrelated to OP's behaviour, like job stress, or family illness, I wasn't trying to blame him so much as defend her from the golddigger rubbish which doesn't even fit the limited narrative we DO have.
Married women on this thread had better put up or shut up, apparently. How charming.