I don't understand why everyone assumes that I can just tell her anytime. It's going to fucking ruin her life as well. This is the middle of a fucking hard ass semester that people are already fucking failing. I'm not trying to make an excuse there are already hardworking students failing right now.

I'm going to copy and paste another answer here this is getting redundant

You really think I don't care??? You have no idea what I've been feeling as of now. I've been having a maelstrom of emotions right now. I know the fucking obvious answer was to tell her but what would that fucking accomplish? 3 people in fucking pain. I've been trying to think of so many ways to go about this and already. It fucking hurts I can't think straight most of the time. I've fucking cried even though I've never cried in years. I've lost control of my emotions even though I've been keeping them in control for years. Right now I'm trying to get a handle on everything and make a decision that won't try to ruin fucking everything. Right now she doesn't even know I can't even imagine what could happen if she found out about it now. I mean right fucking now we are in the hardest semester of our schooling. I've already considered how much that might affect her and her grades. She's already fucking stressed and failing some classes do you think I should tell her now?? If we fucking fail do you know what happens??? You get fucking kicked out of school and can't reapply for fucking 5 years.

We work/study in the health field I know he's not dumb enough to risk her health in this. He still cares about her. Though I think he cares about everyone in his life. It's just that I think he's being lost and stupid.

Don't fucking assume someone doesn't care if they don't do exactly as you suggested. You have no idea the inner turmoil I had over this.