NTA. You weren't wrong for yelling either. Some people need to be yelled at to kick their brain into gear. My girlfriend just wont listen, remember or whatever unless I yell and get angry. Shes not doing it maliciously, I know, but she still does it.

"Hey babe, it's your turn to do dishes"

2 days later

"Dont forget the dishes babe"

3 days

"Babe its piling up and you need to do them now before you do anything else"

3.5 days

(Blocks her wifi) "do the fucking dishes"

Based on reddit though, I'm an asshole, shes a bitch, shes cheating on me, I'm a chauvinist even though we take turns, we should break up, we need counseling or need to learn how to communicate...

Some brains just work differently. I'm putting her square peg in the square hole because I couldn't round its corners and to be quite honest, should I be the one rounding them? I dont think I should.