The people pleaser in me previously paid for everything in the relationship as he was earning less than me. I quit work to return to my studies and I had a little money left. Stupidly I allowed him to use my PayPal account for his Fifa purchases. I thought this was once or twice but come to find that he racked up a £4k debt from impulsively buying packs every day. In the present day, a year later, these packs no longer matter because he’s moved onto the new fifa installation. In October, he began repaying me in monthly £150 instalments (he makes £1k per month and £600 goes to his bills and rent). His monthly money is all I have as I am a student and I have disabilities so I can’t work. I applied for financial support from the government but I need the money in the meantime. I know it’s my fault but I have also stopped buying him presents that don’t get reciprocated because his hobbies are expensive and he doesn’t even write me a letter for my birthday. Sometimes when we are out with people, as I have no money left, I ask him to use my £150 that he hasn’t sent yet to pay for specific things but he makes jokes to our peers about how he pays for everything. It makes me feel gross because I was so proud of my financial independence prior.
Alright, I am a terrible person, but I recommend waiting until he has fully paid you back before breaking up. So far he has paid you back £1350 of the £4000 that he owes you. I hope you changed the password to your PayPal so he does not take advantage of you like that again. Super wrong of him to do that.