My advice? Don't date monos. I know it seems contradictory when you're new to the polyamory game yourself, but people who come into it on their own and people who come into it for you are entirely different games.

If someone tells you they're not comfortable with it, take them at their word and don't waste your time, or your emotional energy, on it.

But when I said all or nothing, he decided to go for it.

Definitely don't do this to a mono. What's even the point? He didn't want a relationship, why push the issue? With someone with 0 experience in polyamory? You shot yourself in the foot, that's okay. We all do it once or twice. Let him go, learn from your mistakes, grow as a person. There's not much else you can do.

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