Being a male and having been a victim all I can say is what I went through. To this day I don't like talking about it, and am distant to the idea of relationships. The only thing I can communicate is the 5 years before psychiatry hit. I would repress things and the anger would build until it would get projected onto the environment. It took me a long time to not only work out my anger but to learn the where it comes from and how it affects my attitude toward other people. This went on for 5 years and I often abused drugs and became a recluse. My personality completely changed until I finally had a psychotic break down which led to me being diagnosed with PTSD. From the perspective of a partner I would say patience and knowing that anger can often araise spontaneously as well as being rooted in memory -- acting out our frustrations. As far as my spontaneity it came from a place of impotence so I always felt anxious and always, always, wanted to express my opinions with a fighting spirit regardless of the consequences. To be a partner I would say one would equally have to be mindful of these things and maybe see a psychiatrist themselves or couple counseling. It's a very traumatic thing that truly puts a person in mental anguish. Knowledge is key, I think.