I understand. I honestly wouldn't give these people or this situation any more time or thought. I know it's difficult. I am an obsessive person myself so I like thinking about something until I feel like patterns emerge or until I feel like I hit a major realization.

It doesn't work that way. We just waste time and energy. It would be cooler if you invested your energy into yourself. You can make a list of 10 traits you would like in a partner and 5 traits you want your partner to acknowledge and appreciate in you. You could also join a workout class like yoga or pilates. Clean out your closet?

These people mean absolutely nothing to you. Let them rot together in their own mess. Feel embarrassed by the thought of even associating with them.

I am telling you what I wish I told myself in the past.