Girls, I have some questions for you.

Are you single?

No.

What do you look for in a man?

Most important qualities are being fun & interesting to hang out with, respectful, intelligent and responsible.

Do you think men should pay for the Check when out on a date with you?

Only if it's the first date, and if he's the one who asked me out. Beyond that, I'm fine with switching. The only exception is if he's much more wealthy than me, and insists on going to expensive places I can't afford.

Do you like chivalrous men? Do you believe in chivalry? Would you like it if a man opened the door for you, lent you his jacket?

I don't really consider those things as "chivalry", just good manners. Whoever gets to the door first, should open it (I've opened plenty of doors for my husband). I would lend him my jacket if he could fit into it. So yes, I like those things, but I don't think it's gendered.

What do you think of polyamory? Would you join such a relationship?

I would never do it. Other people can do what they want, I don't care.

Do you support abortion? Death penalty? Legalization of Drugs?

Yes to all.

Are you a feminist? If so, do think you there are any flaws in the feminist rhetoric? If not, why aren't you a feminist?

Yes. I don't think feminist have done enough to break down male gender roles. I mean, trying to make it acceptable for men to be nurses, teachers, SAHD's, and other traditionally "feminine" things.

Do you want to get Married and/or have children?

I am married and plan on having children.

What do you think of the likes of Amber Rose? Nagging attention whore or sensible activist?

I don't know who that is.

Do you think fat women are beautiful? Do you think fat men are beautiful?

Some of them are beautiful, not most. Same with men. I think it's a lot more difficult (but not impossible) to be attractive when you're overweight.

If your husband treated you well, and was basically perfect, but wanted you to be a stay-at-home mom, and would support you emotionally and financially, would you agree with it?

Absolutely.

If you had a daughter and after she had found out her husband cheated on her she decided to leave him and her children, what would you say?

Good riddance to him.

If you had a daughter who wanted to be a porn Star, what would you say?

I would not support her decision, but she's an adult and it's her choice. I would tell her to watch some documentaries about the porn industry and talk to some porn stars so she knows what she's getting into.

Why do you think some women never get to become CEOs? Do you suffer from sexism at your workplace?

Sometimes it's because of sexism, but that's not the only reason there's fewer female CEO's. I think there's also some internalized sexism going on - women are less likely to think "I should be CEO" and therefore less likely to pursue it. And women are socialized to value different things other than their career - which is a good thing, and I wish it were the same for men. I've experienced sexism in the past, but not anymore.

Do you like Being called Pet names? Do you feel offended if a man whistles to you if he finds you pretty?

Pet named by my husband? Sure. Pet names from other people? Weird. Whistling is rude.

MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION - Do you think women are making any mistakes in modern relationships? What kind of mistakes? Do you think women nowadays are better than they used to be 100 years ago?

Their biggest mistake is not taking the initiative to get what they want. You can get a better man by putting yourself out there and making the first move, instead of just accepting whatever guy happens to come to you.

Another big mistake is believing they can change a man. I think lots of women believe in this, because they can look back and point out how they've changed things about themselves to make their relationships work. They think, "I've changed X and Y for you, so you should be willing to change Z for me." And maybe that's fair, but that's not how life works. Just because you've been accommodating, that doesn't mean you can force someone else to be. Some people are just way too stuck in their ways, and you need to cut them loose.

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