Weekends are similar. He is pretty exhausted all the time. I really am in total admiration of how hard his job is. It is the dream job he wants. Would never consider any other.

I definitely have resentment about the household balance. I calmly and not-as-calmly say this and ask for help, explain how it relates to my feelings of partnership. I’ve begged for more help, frankly.

The household imbalance makes it easier for me when he is not around. When he travels for work, I realize how much work I do managing his mess.

And managing his emotions makes it like having another kid much of the time, not a partner. That’s a real boner-killer, too.