You first take a deep breath.

There can be many reasons why you are not feeling attracted to your husband. Some are silly, some are serious, some take time to unravel.

First - do you have any family or a support network nearby? It can be rough to figure this out if you feel completely alone. Do you have a therapist or someone you can bounce ideas off of?

Objectively as possible, think back. Has anything changed with your husband? Sometimes it can be the smallest thing, in him, from him or in you. I heard it referred to “the ick” once. Once you catch the ick it’s hard to go back.

Think hard, and think as openly and without animosity as you can. If you find it, if there is something, do you feel safe talking to your husband? Do you feel heard? If you don’t, it’s a clear indication it’s time to go.

You never have to stay where you’re not happy. But figuring out why you’re unhappy can resolve the problem sometimes better. I only suggest it because you say you love your husband. Whether your marriage ends or not is just one option.