(Source: Marriage Officiant and relational therapist) the latter was not my doing, people made me that because of my perfect record and unbiased opinion.

Expect rejection. Rejection is a sign that the individuals involved are being honest. Let us use a little bit of shock stimulus to better illustrate. Fetishes. I have no interest in the subject matter or classification of any specific kind. What I am talking about here is specifically what gets you going. I had one client... she wouldn't have called herself that she was more interested in getting to spend time with me outside of the watchful glare of her husband then listening to anything I had to say. I am not so easily thwarted though. Her and her husband had been having all the typical problems a young married couple has. "They aren't the person I married, They aren't forward and suave anymore, they aren't sweet and blah blah blah anymore." These are all typical signs of two people who were lying to themselves and one another the entire time they were dating. They started by just "putting their best foot forward" to quote another post in this thread. Then they kind of liked being this false version of themselves and continued the charade. Why be yourself when you can just be someone else as to protect who you are? Day by day turned to week by week and so on until neither of them realized that they weren't who they said they were. I assure you though, who you are will never go away. It will return. So to get to the point, I made the tough call. I asked something totally inappropriate, I asked her, "Do you two ever watch porn together?" WHAT?! expletive deleted x30 After she calmed down I asked one more question, "Why not?" She went on to tell me about browser history etc. etc. Thinking it was gross and or feeling inadequate. So I said what had to be said, "That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. You two chose to live your lives together and have children yet something as simple as the act of fornication for entertainment is not acceptable material for conversation in your relationship? Do you have any idea of how totally backwards and juvenile that is?" So I told her to go home grab her husbands laptop and see if she could get into what he was watching and if she could, bring it with her to bed that night and just turn it on and start watching it. I told her that he would be angry and confused at first but there are "ways" to get past that. So to cut to the chase, it's now 6 years later and they had two more kids. I still get Christmas cards from their family and according to her she never disclosed the source of her actions. They were both into Hentai. They were just too busy lying about who they were to realize that they actually were perfect for each other. Last note: If you can't laugh about someone farting in the car with you, you should probably think about where your shame comes from instead of shaming others for being human.