But most people don't even realize that these things are normal and have been for us living with muslim families the whole time. I grew up with one and have plenty of friends that did too. It IS normal to be gay (me) and for it to be made clear that gays are "disgusting" and worthy of execution, leading you to never come out for fear of being disowned or killed. There will never be a sermon at the mosque preaching acceptance of gays, ever (I've heard quite the opposite on Fridays in Canada, believe me!). I DO have female friends that are forced to wear the hijab, if not explicitly by messed up harmful views of victim blaming and "honor" all tied to the father's feelings. Never judge a girl in a hijab, because she might be seething underneath it, wanting to rip it out. This "choice" thing is false. You are made from an early age to believe its a choice, and essentially forced into it because its the "pious" choice to make if your family participates in that. Muslims DO overarchingly judge and support, if quietly and not openly, the death penalty or at the most liberal total ostracization of apostates who leave the faith. I will never be able to voice my views to the greater Muslim community without being ostracized or receiving death threats. And this is in the US. This is my experience. There are many liberal, wonderful, progressive Muslims, and the vast majority of Muslims here are peaceful, but many families originate in societies where you cannot stand up for these liberal values without outright contradicting the Quran, and so they stay silent. You will not see protests in the streets for gay rights and gender equality, or protests in the streets after every terrorist attack.