Thank you. People were downvoting me before now, because it's a hard truth.

Social skills are like a muscle. If you don't use them, they fade away. They get harder to use.

The longer you sit at home complaining that it's hard to meet people, the harder it is going to get. If you can't pay attention to the person talking to you, why do you think they should pay attention to you?

Do you not wonder things? Do you not meet a person and wonder who they are? Because they are just as complex as you are. I guarantee they will have a story they would love to share, to have someone listen to.

I see it as a gift when people want to talk with me. If I can be honest and open with who I am, maybe they will be comfortable doing the same. And when they do, that makes me special. That is the other person letting themselves be vulnerable for a moment, so I can see who they really are, which means they trust me and that feels fucking good.

There are so many lonely people in this world and it's because we are scared to be vulnerable. We are scared someone will shoot us down, or tell us we are wrong, or question who we are. Once you stop caring about that and do you, things get easier.

If you can't open up about yourself, no one can connect with you. That's not their fault, that's your fault for giving in to fear. That is the point of asking questions in a conversation, to build a picture of the person you are talking with and see if you can form a relationship.

I know that it is work for introvert. I'm an extrovert, so I gain energy from people. When I'm alone, I do that anxiety and worrying that you do. I'm not immune to it, but I don't let it stop me from going out again.

If you would rather be lonely than use a little of your energy to try and connect with other people, that's your problem, not everyone else's.