No, we never drank with anyone. His brother lived upstairs, my ex is very much in control of the household as he was the one working. His brother has some issues. I was working and contributed as much as he and his brother did for bills though. When he ended it it was because he thought I was taking advantage of him which I absolutely wasn't, it was always really important to me to contribute as much as anyone else because I never wanted to be a free loader, I even checked my bank accounts to make sure I was giving as much as I borrowed and paid the bills when I should.

When I asked if we could try curb the alcohol he would get very 'it's your problem, not mine' about it. He wanted me to try to stop it but... I cant do it, especially when I'm with someone that drinks as much as he does. He said because he's bigger with a strong metabolism he would never get drunk so it wasnt a problem for him .

_< i know what the right thing to do is and I frigging did it! but when I think of him I get caught up with how nice he can be and how mental I've been in the relationship and I keep wondering if hes just not known how to be around me when I've been over emotional, which is something he's said. I told him we should leave it because I need to figure out a way I can be less reliant and he says he doesnt care if I'm over emotional now. to give him a chance to prove he can be more patient with me.

wah

thanks for replying