Before this I never felt like I really "fit in" with the libfem crowd, but had no idea there was anything else out there. I was afraid to ask around because I had heard about the TERF boogey-women and how evil they were and I was afraid I'd be labeled as one without even knowing what it was. On those libfem subreddits the word "terf" would come up occasionally but only in a reply to a supposed "terf" who already had their post deleted and banned for what they said and an army of libfems replying saying how stupid and wrong they were. I was starving for information because the amount of dickworship going on in libfem spaces was absolutely sickening to me and honestly I thought there was something wrong with me because I didn't feel connected to any of those women, and the "fun feminism" also didn't appeal to me because I knew that "weaponized femininity" wasn't doing shit to help women. And there were a lot of contradictions like them saying "gender is a social construct" but then saying "your gender is valid" to any transwoman who showed up. It seemed more like people who were too lazy to do anything else might as well try to enjoy their oppression.

I felt like I was a feminist who was on the outside looking in from 16 to 26, until I found one post on tumblr of a radfem who unabashedly stated how amazing and hardcore and strong women's bodies are that they are able to carry and deliver another human being, while saying how physically weak men's bodies are in a lot of ways.

I almost cried because that was what I had been looking for, a woman who loves women and wants to fight for us and build us up while having no problem telling a man to fuck off when he had a problem with it. I remember about a month before finding that post that I had pretty much given up on what I thought was feminism, I wasn't going to call myself one anymore because I never agreed with anything libfems were saying or doing.

I looked on her blog and saw that she was replying to anons calling her an evil c*nt and terf who hates transwomen for saying that female bodies are amazing. Her replies were so straight to the point of shutting them down perfectly. I followed her immediately along with other radfems and for once in my life feminism made sense to me. I thought if this is what a "terf" is, they aren't so bad afterall.