Yup. They create the problem and then it's everyone else's fault that things blew up in their faces.

Over a year ago, GC/probable NBro was ranting at me about how NSister gave him some leftovers (literally a free meal) and there wasn't enough shrimp in it and complained that she did it intentionally to slight him. OBVIOUSLY. So he told me she was infertile--she'd told him not to tell me (we were estranged at the time) he said, but she'd made him MAD, so that justified him betraying a medical confidence. Well, after he threatened me a few months after this and told me I deserved to die and I went NC with him, I relied on NSis for info about our dying father. She eventually became pregnant through fertility treatments and she said "I figured NBro told you I couldn't have kids..." and I confirmed, "Yeah. He was mad you didn't give him enough shrimp, so he told me." Well, NSis mentioned this during one of his arguments with her where he claimed that he's an innocent flower in life and a victim and we're all horrible people. Cut to me getting an angry email about going behind his back and betraying him. Note: I hadn't spoken to him in 7 months and was fully NC with him at this point because he threatened me and wished me dead. And I'm sorry, you don't reveal something delicate like someone's infertility over you feeling slighted over shrimp. That's not okay. But consequences for his actions? My fault.