I didn't have a specific MOH because my bridesmaids were my best friend, my sister and my cousin - and i didn't want to pick one. But in the end I asked my sister (who lives out of state) and my BF (who lives near me) to plan the bachelorette. (My cousin travels a lot for work and wasn't able to get involved.)

I wanted a quiet, grown-up night with my close friends. No strippers or penis straws! But I still wanted to have fun. I threw out a few ideas like maybe taking a yacht out on the harbour but eventually said I would leave it up to them. I did want to see the final plan though before anyone was invited.

The suggestion eventually was to go to a cabaret thing - dinner and a show. I would have been fine with this, had it not been for the fact that my BF had planned the exact same night for another friend a few years ago. Im not sure if my sister knew this or not tho, but the plan kinda reeked of a last-minute ohno-what-are-we-going-to-do panicked plan from both of them.

So... I talked to my now-husband and came up with my own little plan quickly. After an awkward conversation with my BF and sister, we did had someone come to a hotel room to do some nail art, then dinner at a French restaurant, followed by drinks in the city. They planned everything and booked everything and the night was fun in the end but I was annoyed they weren't organised and didn't really think about what I'd asked for.

Also... I asked for invites to be mailed out and provided them with a few fairly simple and inexpensive ideas from Pinterest. I finally got my invite about a week before and it had been messily hand-written on nondescript stationery. By then I'd already called the friends I wanted to come and personally invited them.

Argh - sorry, that was a novel.

TL;DR Be organised. Ask her what kind of night she wants and don't do what you want instead.