He’s absolutely not the only person with faults. The difference has been, in the past, when he brings up issues I make a conscious effort to address them. Whereas we have been having the same conversation for 8 years or so where I cry, beg him to do something, he’ll say yeah he’s sorry and he’ll do it, then it never happens. Rinse and repeat for so many years, it starts to eat at you internally. I’ve tried everything I can to communicate how important it is to me, and he swears he gets it. It wasn’t until I went I can’t deal with this anymore that he went ‘oh you’re serious’ and started trying. And I’m finding it hard to undo my mind set.