I agree. Those hating on all WMAF relationships but loving and thinking that AMWF is the highest standard are doing exactly what they accuse AF doing in WMAF. They accuse them of fetishizing white men, while most guys on here hold AMWF as the epitome of success and holiness, are doing the same, if not worse (for being hypocrites).

There are literally so many toxic people every where. I honestly only know a handful of people (white, asian, black) that have non toxic relationships. I don't think there are anymore toxic WMAF relationships than there are white male-white female relationships. I mean go to Walmart. Trashy people with toxic traits in toxic relationships are just that. Some people are racist and some aren't. I've been hit by people on here with "there is no such thing as a healthy wmaf relationship, but I literally know one??? Also, I know white girls that fetishize asian men because of their anime obsession cause my husbands exes were literally that kind of white girl--the equivalent of white guys that are ONLY into asian girls and will seek them out and far as they have to to "get an asian girl."...These white girls are exactly the same.

This is a bit off track but....

Not everything is as black and white as it may seem to you. Like personally, my husband and I, in RURAL SOUTH CAROLINA, have never had anyone say anything bad about us when we are together or separated. He has never faced any racism here as a Chinese guy whose second language is English. People from other countries are quick to think Americans level of bluntness (see lack of 面子 like in chinese culture) is racism, but it's not. It's a difference in culture. (I'm not saying bluntness as in being outright rude, but being more honest about true feelings/thoughts than my asian parent in laws would be...In my personal experience some Chinese people seem to take things very personally and as an attack when I would never consider whatever as an attack. (Sometimes my husband even takes a lack of action as a person having something against him, but I tell him, you know, here people want to be asked for help or they don't want to offer help and possibly imply that you're incompetent...)

These are generalizations from my personal experience, so I am obviously open to the experiences of others. It's just I find it so hard to believe that I literally live in the state that started the Civil War because they wanted to keep their slaves, but there's somehow more racism in all these other liberal areas. Like I said, I expect people to have differing experiences, but following logic, I would think the Deep South would have more racists, therefore more racism, therefore more personal experiences of racism for my husband (or for us when we're together).