As the SO and FP in a relationship with a woman who has BPD, a huge "thank you... exhale" for describing things in my world and the pain (on both sides) accompanying it, perfectly. I don't know if I'm being devalued or just de-wanted. Or both. Everything changed so quickly that I'm leaning towards both. Over a year living together and I guess I am no longer her favorite person and I feel abandoned. In my eyes, I feel like I've let her down by not meeting her expectations as they've evolved during our time together. Not sure what is in our future, or even if she still wants one with me. At this point, I'd say she wants me gone, but it's a hard thing to pin down. Just felt that someone very much in love with a pwBPD and agreeing with you should chime in and add my very unsolicited two cents worth. You absolutely made me feel better by empathy.