as a person who grew up broke in general, if I was dating someone and it always consisted of doing expensive things, which I couldn’t afford without their help, I would rather try to incorporate other things too. regardless of gender. like let’s say she had one leg and you were always trying to jump rope. even if you could hold her up, she may just prefer to do something else where she doesn’t feel inferior. as a poor myself, we don’t always want handouts, even if Ben Shapiro said so on his podcast.

if you do specifically want to be the great gatsby for some girl, you can definitely find a different girl who will take every cent you throw her way, but as other people have pointed out, this one is probably more of a keeper.