Well, They didn't know I was angry at the other family members and I said why I was angry at them and how they made me feel and what I did to the person. The person ghosted me for several days and idk why. The person says when there is a problem usually. I now understand why perhaps they ghosted me but back then I told the other family members what I think about them when they did this And said pretty hurtful words that I wouldn't otherwise. However I wouldn't have a problem saying to the person I'm in conflict with "you did this therefore I felt X about you however I now understand why you could have acted this because I did X and I'm sorry if I hurt you" however I wouldn't tell all those things i told the maybe gossiping,