Emotional labor, really? You're not laboring for your partner by planning a date they don't want to go on, at a place they don't want to go to, that's also out of their price range, and then demanding that they pay for the whole thing. That's called being selfish and passive aggressive. She could say "hey, I do a lot of cooking for you and for our anniversary I'd like you to treat me to dinner somewhere nice", but that would require a level of maturity and communication they obviously don't have in their relationship.

Seriously, who chows down on a steak and two cocktails while their sticker shocked partner nibbles on a salad and drinks water and doesn't realize that something is wrong? She set him up to fail and let the whole meal go down before putting him in am uncomfortable position on purpose.