I'm a man, but this whole conversation made me laugh a bit. I get that there are creepy guys, but the way you described these girls - it doesn't seem like they are complaining about sexual harassment. I could obviously be wrong here as I don't know them or their situations exactly. Just going on the info you provided it sounds like girls being catty. I want to be careful with my language here, because I think misogyny is a real issue - but I personally don't see a problem with a man respectfully asking someone out. My girlfriend gets hit on occasionally and I really don't get offended and neither does she (again, as long as the person is being respectful). Even if she is not attracted to the guy, if he is not being threatening then I don't see the need for this whole victimization mentality.

I can remember a specific instance from my own life where a gay man hit on me and it was flattering. I didn't feel like this borderline rape victim just because a man was giving me attention - again, I have to emphasize the man was being respectful. He was physically more imposing than I am (I'm kinda weak), so I would have been scared if he got aggressive. But he didn't! And he didn't push it when I said I wasn't interested. We had an interesting conversation about gay stuff. From my very limited perspective, I have to sort of agree with you OP. If I posted sexually charged images of myself online, I would obviously not be condoning aggressive or asshole behavior, but it would be a bit weird if I complained about some people making comments about my appearance. >_< I don't see you as victim blaming, because from the information you've provided I don't see these women as victims. If you were to say, "Men are consistently aggressive with my friends and make them feel uncomfortable with their persistent advances," then yeah I'd see them as victims. And I'd criticize you if you were marginalizing their experience. But from the info you provided I just see them humble bragging and treating you like crap to inflate their own egos. Tell them how you feel OP, or get better friends! Sorry to post as a man, I just thought this convo was interesting and thought I'd throw my two cents in. Feel free to criticize me or remove this post if it's unwelcome. I'm always willing to learn! Again, I want to emphasize that sexual harassment is bad, and women who complain about it should have their voices amplified.