Normally, I would just keep it to myself, but my mother and grandmother are very, very perceptive. My mother recently said in passing that "I don't know if you identify as my son anymore." If she said that, it's a matter of time before I'm flat-out asked, and I don't want to lie.

I think telling them I'm transitioning to butch specifically would open the door to getting to talk to them about how I'd like to be treated, yes. I don't think I care about pronouns. It's very weird to think about being referred to as "she" again, but I feel like I need to get used to it eventually... I already look very different after a month without T, and clean-shaven. I've stopped getting "sir'd" but haven't been "ma'am'd" yet.

Practicing with my partner would probably work. Right now, she still refers to me with he/him pronouns out of habit. I'll see how she feels about experimenting.

That's true about giving them clear instructions. I gave them clear instructions when I started transitioning (and was an ass about it) and it did help. They're probably going to be relieved about this, so it'll go over better, I'm sure.

Thanks for your advice!