You should see how things looked like when my ex-gf vaguely talked about maybe living together (as in, marriage). There was a nice list of things she wants - and not one thought of what I want. So I was looking at what she's typing and thought: "Okay so.. you get all these things if we marry - and I get what.. less of what I have in this relationship because I would have to make sacrifices?". So for example, she wants kids, marriage in a church (although I'm not a Christian anymore but fine I could've compromised on this), maybe being stay-at-home mom ideally.. and so on. Ok. But what do I get? Less time with my gf/wife because it's used on kids (which I don't want because there's no benefit to it), less money because it's used on kids and wife, less peaceful time (because kids cry all the time and later are annoying in multiple ways, and even more later you need to teach them stuff and train which is okay but time consuming), less sexual things because I can already hear additional excuses of "tired because of kids", "kids are here" or just caring less because she has all she wants so pleasing me is less relevant. And so on and so forth. And what do I get? Let's say I work and she doesn't, fine. I get home from work and then what? Go on my laptop while trying to ignore the noise kids make, and the feeling of rejection because there's no sex? Help me out here because I don't see the point.