Im not sure how old she is, but for reference i am 16(male). I think that your a wonderful mother and already on the right track, i am very glad you asked this question so if you do end up seeing this, Ill try and include everything i can think of, so it will probably be pretty long.I hope that you wont need all or most of this, you probably wont but i wanted to cover everything i could think of just in case.Ive put in depth guides and some of the best posts on this subject that i could find at the bottomEdit: i went over the character limit by around 5 thousand and massive portions got cut out, and i cant get them back, so if you need any detailed help bout any specifics (wound care, forms of SH, professional help, medication, facilities and wards) feel free to pm me, i will gladly reply as fast as i can with as much detail as possible. You sound like an amazing mom and i will gladly do anything to help out1. Support her. Let her know that you are always there for her, no matter what. Let her know that she is more important than anything else and that you will do the best you can to help and support her.2. Listen to her. Always. Listen to everything she has to say. Let her know that she can tell you anything no matter how hard it might be to hear.3. Let her know that she is not a burden, that your with her no matter what.4. Talk to her about mental health check ups (by you), this meaning, talk about a time or way to ask her about how shes been. Let her tell you how comfortable she is with telling you. This is not to force her to quit SH, but it is some accountability. Basically saying, " I trust you enough to tell me the truth, Im not going to force you or search you, but im trusting you to always be honest with me". I think mutual trust is a very important thing in this situation.5. Let her feel comfortable about telling you if she SH again. Your not encouraging SH in any way, but if you yell and get mad or upset at her, it might cause her to try and hide SH from you, which is definitely not what you want. Let her know that your there to help her.6. NO ULTIMATUMS. No "if you hurt yourself ill do it to" or "you must stop immediately or else" Ive heard a lot of people tell me stuff like " If you off yourself ill off myself too, you dont want that on your conscience" Chances are she probably feels bad enough knowing that you dont approve of her self harm, or any other feelings that she has about SH herself, its best not to put any more burdens or weight on her shoulders.7. Let her know that you dont want her to SH. The fact is its never ultimately healthy for anyone. Let her know that you want her to try her best to stop SH, or at least start harm reduction. With that being said, let her know that shes important to you, even she SH, you still love her and it wont change the way you think about or feel for her.8. If she does SH. Dont try and punish her. So no grounding or anything. This goes back to the ultimatum thing, "If you SH again ill take your phone". If you punish her for SH it will probably make her feel worse and like if she does it again, shell have to hide it in order to not get in trouble, which again, is not something good. There should be an open and honest 2 way relationship and doing something that makes her feel the need to hide it from you, will do nothing but hurt that relationship.9. I cant stress this enough. NO BODY CHECKS. I understand its very hard and worrying for you, but forcefully or even not forcefully checking her body is an invasion of privacy. It can be very stressful and traumatizing to have someone search your body for any form of SH.10. Have a plan for if urges and feelings come strongly. Such as, her letting you know, and you just being near her to help keep her safe. Not overbearing, you dont want her to feel like she has no freedom or privacy as that might make her hide stuff. But definitely near, you dont have to stare or even be in the same room. But it really is best for both interests that she doesnt SH11. If she can and is comfortable, talk to her about SH. Or maybe just have her listen. Its important that she knows that you dont want her to self harm, and that ultimately her self harming will make things worse. So its in the best interest of both of yall that she stops. This isnt me making random off base claims, Sh is not a healthy coping skill, it may work temporarily, but it is hard to control and stop, and in the long run wont help herLike i said im 16 male, and live in the USA. If you ever have any questions feel free to pm me or if you need to talk or even want her to talk to someone similar until you can find someone irl or a proffesional, im here for whatever you need if you need something. I hope some of this helps you. 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