It depends on the friendships. My husband had a group of friends that he had since high school. Some of them even all joined the army together and my husband and one of them even ended up in the same unit together. They were really close. But everything changed when they got out and came back home. His one friend had a really rough go and ended up getting out six months in due to a really horrible friendly fire incident while on deployment. He became a different person and had horrible self esteem issues. His cousin, who my husband was in the same unit with, also had a really rough deployment and was often envious my husband's career because he did not have to deploy after he got moved to different unit. He ended up on a culinary team that cooked for generals and other upper echelons of the military. He even got to cook for Obama one time. Anyways, they all came home and ended up in the same college together. That's where I met my husband. Both of his friends also liked me, but I never entertained that. I was only ever interest in my husband. We obviously all hung out a lot and were over at eachothers houses all the time. His friends like to play stupid games like truth or dare and drunk jenja at parties. Well, I guess it came out that they both still liked me and was very jealous that he ended up with me. We both kind of laughed it off, but after that night it became increasingly uncomfortable as they would constantly make fun of my husband and would bring up stories to try to embarrass him in front of me. It all came to screeching halt when one party they hosted they literally dubbed a "break up with her" party and they held an intervention on us about how we shouldn't be together because he wasn't "one of the boys" anymore. They gave him an ultimatum of break up with me, or never be friends again. He looked at them and said fuck you and we walked out the door together. I was very upset thatvhusband had just lost his best friends over me and a few months after that we did try to hang out again, but it was too strange and they just wanted to talk shit. Sorry for the book, but moral of the story is sometimes, people change and there's nothing you can do about it. If you are happy, you are happy.