I agree. Friendships are different than a romantic relationship. She prob isnt aware of his dark side. He would threaten suicide if there were a threat of us breaking up. His behaviour would not be ok to be around kids either. . I wouldn’t raise my kid in that environment. I felt when I knew him, I propped him up a lot. I wonder if I made him worse , if it’s something about me - and this is why I can’t find a good relationship. I Don’t want that kind of co dependent drama filled relationship. I’m not sad I don’t have him or marriage to him. Just sad and dismayed why I can’t find love and commitment in the same way other do , even when they have major problems. I have my life together and have for a long time. I don’t know why it’s so difficult to find a lasting relationship. That’s what makes me sad about all of this. I def don’t want to go through a divorce with small children again. Never again. It